How often do you say encouraging words to your children? We often nag them or tell them to stop doing something, but how often do we say something nice or kind? Human beings grow by hearing love, praise, consideration, kindness and support. Imagine if parents or caregivers spoke kindly each day what might change not only in our own family but in the world?
Everyone likes to hear nice and positive things, but to a child, it’s even more important. Their minds, personalities, and self esteem are constantly changing. Saying nice words to a child can be life changing. What parents say to children become their inner voice. As a parent or teacher, we have the ability to make a big impact in a child’s life. Please don’t waste it on yelling or negativity when we can be filling their heads with love.
Ten Things You Should Say Each Day
- I love you – Please say this as much as you possibly can. Say it when they wake up, before school, after school and before bed. Plus tell them a thousand times in between. I recommend this book for you to read about how amazing they are. You can never tell your child that you love them too much. I say it multiple times per day. I love you are the best encouraging words.
- You are amazing – Who does not enjoy hearing that they are amazing? A person often becomes what they hear. If a child (or anyone) hears that they’re amazing, self-confidence increases at an extraordinary rate. You can say it for any reason, any time, and really mean it. Forget the sarcasm and just compliment.
- Of all the kids, I have the best kid –Can you imagine if someone told you this as a child? You become so happy and happiness spreads. The happier kids are, the better adults they will be. Also, the happier the children are, the more eager to do their work that they’ll be.
- You are unique – We are so special. Not one of us are the same from the moment of conception. Reminding kids that thereis no one like them, will help make them be the best that they possibly can be because there is no one as amazing as they are.
Encouraging words
- I missed you -No matter if you leave for the store or work, make sure you tell the kids that you missed them. If they go to school, make sure they know that you missed them. Each day that I come home from work, I tell the kids how much I missed them. By telling children that they are missed, they know how much they are loved.
- How can I help you? – We give kids chores, but do we ever offer to help them? Yet we always ask them to help us. Please remember to ask them how you can help them. This will assist them in being a helpful adult. If you help them, they will be more out to help you and others. That is how you teach them to be a loving, kind and helpful adult. Encouraging words are helpful.
- It’s ok to have big emotions – Adults often expect children not to have emotions. Don’t cry. Don’t be silly. Children are allowed to have big emotions-happy, sad, anger, funny. Our job is to help guide them through the emotions without telling them that they can’t feel them. Adults feel upset and have all kinds of moods and so do children.
- Do your best – When someone does their best, they have little regret. I suggest that the child ask to pray that they do their best. With God on your side, you can do your best. Mistakes will always be made. Try to do your best in everything and learn from mistakes.
- God loves you and looking out for you – The gift of the knowledge that God designed each one of us with a plan in mind, is a great gift. Take your kids to Mass and introduce them to Jesus at a young age. Hopefully, they have a strong relationship with the Lord so they can always be supported by Him. Kids need to know God and He loves us all. He wants us to be happy,moral,decent people. Praying with your kids is amazing.
- I believe in you – Kids need to know that their parents always believes in them. We want them to be happy and successful but they need to know that you will always have their back. Even if they make a multitude of mistakes, they need to know you’ll be there to love and help them. Believing that they can be awesome is more than half the battle of being awesome. Make sure they know you always believe in them. I recommend reading your kids this book!
Children might look at you a little strange for saying these encouraging words. But in the inside, they’ll be glowing!
