Dealing with Separation Anxiety as a College Parent

Commencing college can be emotionally challenging for parents. We invest our hearts and love them deeply, but the separation can be arduous. Allow me to share my experience.

1. Laura’s college is approximately three hours away, and the move-in time was between 8:00 AM and 11:00 AM. We embarked on our journey around 5:00 AM.
2. Upon opening my bedroom door at 4:00 AM, I discovered Laura already dressed and radiating joy. A wave of emotions washed over me, a mix of excitement and sadness, as I realized the inevitable departure.
3. I prepared myself as much as possible, and Laura assisted me with the remaining tasks. We contemplated the essential items to bring. She placed me in my wheelchair, meticulously brushed my teeth, and styled my hair. I endeavored to suppress the bittersweet nature of these moments.
4. My husband and son prepared for the move. Laura affectionately interacted with our pets, offering them hugs and affection. However, the inclement weather necessitated several stops to repair the tarp on the truck, ensuring that our belongings remained dry.
5. Jeff loaded me into our truck, securing my portable motorized chair in the rear compartment. During the journey, we encountered several interruptions to address the tarp repairs. Despite the stress, we maintained composure and even found moments of levity amidst the challenges.
6. I repeated numerous prayers of trust in the divine, seeking guidance and protection for the entire process. Remarkably, my prayers were answered, and there were no arguments, and everything arrived safely. I was exceptionally successful in this endeavor.
7. Laura experienced a combination of excitement and apprehension, but we all rejoiced when everything was successfully transported to her dorm. The sole casualty was her lampshade, which Jeff promptly replaced at a nearby store.

Campus Arrival

1. Upon our arrival, college students emptied our truck and efficiently placed all of Laura’s belongings in her dorm. Her roommate was already present, and Laura promptly set up her new living space. She demonstrated remarkable efficiency by packing her belongings efficiently, utilizing hangers to facilitate storage. Although I was unable to physically assist, I provided counsel and support whenever necessary. I remained attentive to Laura’s progress, trying to suppress tears of emotion.
2. During our lunch, I experienced a surge of emotions when Laura bid farewell to her roommate and proceeded to prepare for the convocation. This was a novel experience for me during my college years.
3. The students proceeded through a designated gate and headed to the gymnasium. We observed Laura engaged in lively conversations with fellow students, her radiant smile lighting up the scene. Upon reaching the gymnasium, a somber atmosphere settled in as the choir performed a poignant song in honor of the parents. I clung to her tightly, seeking solace in her presence.
4. Following the convocation, Laura enveloped me in a warm embrace, exclaiming with enthusiasm that she had already forged numerous friendships. Her excitement was palpable.
5. We returned to her dormitory, while Jeff and Jason ventured out to procure essential items for her. Laura diligently organized her living space as we engaged in conversation. Upon their return, I realized it was time for us to bid farewell and depart for home. Laura had a dinner engagement, and our subsequent three-hour drive back was filled with anticipation.
6. Jeff and Jason exchanged affectionate embraces with Laura before me, and I was overcome with tears. Laura reciprocated my hugs with two final farewells in the hallway. As I bid her adieu, she requested another hug, and my emotional response intensified once more.

Journey back home

1. Upon our return home, I felt a sense of tranquility. I was certain that Laura was experiencing immense joy and possessing the necessary qualities to navigate this new chapter of her life. Jeff and I engaged in meaningful discussions throughout our journey back. Jason, however, opted to rest during the majority of the drive.
2. As we descended upon our familiar street, the emotional turmoil resurfaced. The absence of my entire family left me with a profound sense of loneliness.
3. Over the subsequent days, the emotional impact of Laura’s departure continues to resonate within me. She is currently experiencing a state of exhilaration and busyness, having actively participated in various events and established connections with new acquaintances. I ensure to maintain regular communication with her through text messages, expressing my good mornings and good nights.  
4. Hang in there to all parents experiencing the pain of separation. Pray and try to stay as busy as possible. Tru not to annoy your kid by endlessly texting them. We prepared them for this. Let them enjoy it.